As a bisexual mom in a straight-passing relationship, I sometimes feel guilty for identifying as queer

• I identify as bi, but most people can't tell because I'm a mom in a relationship with a man.

• The bisexual erasure hurts and takes a toll on my mental health.

• I also feel guilty for identifying as bi because I have the safety of my nuclear-looking family.

I'm a bisexual woman. There, I said it.
Talking about my sexual identity makes me nervous. I often feel like an imposter — a woman encroaching on a land in which she isn't welcome. As a mother in a relationship with a man, I sometimes feel like I haven't earned the right to call myself bisexual. It's especially difficult when my friends and family all assume I'm a heterosexual woman.
That bisexual erasure takes a toll on my mental health — and makes me question if I should even be calling myself queer in the first place.
As a bisexual mom in a straight-passing relationship, I sometimes feel guilty for identifying as queer